How To Win, Even After It Feels Like You've Already Lost

How To Win When You Feel Like You've Already Lost

The aftermath of a severe storm can be devastating.  Often, it can appear as though there is little to no sign of life, hope, or restoration.  Perhaps you’ve been here...  

Perhaps you’ve faced a storm in life that has left you feeling beyond repair with dreams deferred.  As if everything was working in your favor and then, BOOM!  Out of nowhere, the winds blew your aspirations out of reach, the rain washed away your hard work, the hail beat upon your determination, and all you appeared to be left with was brokenness and defeat.

Dear sister, I want you to know that even in the midst of what seems like total calamity, you can make it!  I’ve had my own share of storms and challenges that have slowed down and even stopped my progress at times.  But I can attest to the fact that with God on my side, I’ve come out a winner every time and you can too.  

So, say this with me:  “I will make it!”  No really, say it OUT LOUD like you mean it.  Ok, now let me tell you how…


1. Believe you win

It all begins with a renewed thought process.  Jeremiah 29:11 is one of my favorite Bible verses which states, “For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,” says the Lord, “plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster to give you a future and a hope.” (AMP version)

Translation:  “All I do is win, win, win, no matter what!” (Insert dancing)  Really, as a daughter of the King, you have victory embedded into your DNA, making #winning your way of life, even when you feel like you’ve lost.  Practical ways to renew your mind include:

  • Reading Jeremiah 29:11 every day and posting it to your bathroom mirror.  The more you see God’s Word in front of you, the more you see it operating inside of you.   
  • Replace negative talk with positive affirmations and confessions.  Remember, your words have power and will produce fruit in accordance to what you speak.  
  • Surround yourself with other winners, influential mentors, and people who genuinely have your best interest at heart.  


2. Survey the land & gather the fragments

Once you develop a winner’s mindset, you will begin to view your obstacles from a winner’s/victorious perspective.  You see, the most successful people view challenges as a bridge to greatness, not a stumbling block from it.

Remember, you don’t have to figure it out on your own, so there’s no need to be on a self-imposed island.  Take the “S” off your chest and allow your supernatural power to come from God and the additional resources around you.

Ex. If you need help rebuilding your business plan, ask for it! Relevant Entrepreneur is a great place to start!  If you’re trying to identify your purpose, begin by writing out your passions and the types of problems you’re the greatest at solving.  Yes, your storms, trials, and hardships may have done some damage, but they didn’t destroy you, and they can’t.  

Instead of looking at your storm’s aftermath as a devastation, I challenge you to see it as a divine opportunity to gather the fragments and know that in God’s hands your “not enough” becomes “more than enough.”


3. Move Forward

After the end of any storm, the sun will shine again.  The same applies to your life.  Even at your darkest point, the slightest notion of light has enough power to completely change your atmosphere.  

One of the greatest ways to move forward is to look forward and focus on the present light.  Practical ways to do this include:

  • Creating a new vision board
  • Networking with more ambitious entrepreneurs
  • Joining an exclaimed business mastermind
  • Re-branding yourself and/or your business


Whatever you need to do to start fresh, do it!  

And do it with grit and diligence.

Your destiny isn’t a fairytale for your future.  It’s a decision for today.  I always say, that “Restoration is Possible,” but guess what?  It begins with you, the same way it began with me.  

In 2016, I’d decided that enough was enough.  I’d dealt with low self-esteem/worth, depression, past failures, and lack of identity long enough.  I decided then that I was going to make it, even if it was on my broken pieces.  

The most amazing part of all was that once I yielded my brokenness to God completely, I discovered Psalm 147:3 which states, “He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds [healing their pain and comforting their sorrow].”  (AMP version)

Within that same year, God birthed restoration, a ministry and a writing business through my life.  If He did it for me, He can do that and even greater for you.  


You can and will make it.     

Wherefore, sirs, be of good cheer: for I believe God, that it shall be even as it was told me… And the rest, some on boards, and some on broken pieces of the ship. And so it came to pass, that they escaped all safe to land.” [Acts 27: 25, 44]